I have tried so many times to understand why he does what he does or how he justifies his actions to himself an others. What I do know is that no matter how broken your family really is on the inside, it was instilled in you that you will and do act as though it is perfect on the outside when outsiders are concerned. So when I say it out loud that I ever even went about trying to fix myself to accommodate the dysfunctional ways of your family, it shouldn’t surprise anyone to know he only went out of his way to expose and exploit my weaknesses, and even though it was so very painful, I had made myself believe it was a good thing finding all the flaws and everything broken meant I could work on myself to become a better person for myself my daughters my future and even him all these flaws that I didn’t even know existed at the time just for his advantage in the long run.
Unfortunately I finally hit my rock bottom, lower than I ever in all my life imagined or believed possible. When I finally made it to this dark place you made your calculated move like it was just some chess game that without hesitation you went for the kill without missing a beat or showing emotion what so ever.
I realized that I needed to allow myself the time and space to heal, but only recently have I realized that to fully heal, I have to start loving myself and taking care of my own needs. And knowing that it was possible to do this. Shutting my emotions off was never the answer, I have to learn how to manage what to hold in and what to let out and I will probably get this wrong more than I get it right but I cannot continue any other way because this behavior only continued to give you power over me and my emotions. The punishment for this has gone on for too long weakening me almost to nothing, and now I am speaking out and reaching forward in hopes that it will actually empower me.
Surprisingly I have found that many many people have experienced relationships with someone just like you and as much as I know how uncomfortable it makes you for me to publicly paint your name and actions as vividly as I still remember them, I do not care because you failed at your attempt to brainwash me, even if it did come close, none the less you failed to actually succeed at doing so. You are not such a master manipulator after all. No one likes to hear the truth as the saying goes, but really people want to hear the hard truth no matter how hard. Because you see, the thing I have learned about lies and half-truths is that they can only hold on for so long because eventually the truth is going to come out full blown.
“A lie can travel half way around the world before the truth starts to put on its shoes”
The reality of it is that your know exactly what you are no matter how hard you try to pretend there is no cure for damaged shell of a person you are and will always gravitate towards because of its allure to you. You will always attempt to hide this major flaw to fool someone into thinking that you are a saint and you had your pick of who ended up with you, then you met me and when your true colors came out is when you went into over drive in an attempt to break me so that you could get away with it again and have the chance to prey on another victim. Only you failed to calculated the fact that you wanted your cake an eat it too. You didn’t want to lose a child for a third time and so you have had to put your focus solely on making sure you appear to be what your truly are not.
As messed up as this may seem for me to say considering all things involved with what I have said about you but after so long its normal for a male or female to seek a relationship with someone for intimate needs whether emotionally or physically, I have no matter the injustice and pain I endure from you keeping my child from me, but you on the other hand have directed your full undivided attention to appearing as though you are a model father not for the purpose of the child involved but for the approval and praise from your parents that you have lacked to receive most of your life and losing it now would be unthinkable, and whether or not you realize it that unhealthy fantasy world you are consumed by and obsessed with will eventually come crashing down.
Unfortunately I almost allowed you to break me completely but I found the will to get back up on my feet and put one foot in front of the other and what you will eventually realize sooner than later is that you met your match. You path you chose was really just a cowardly way and a day of reckoning is on its way where all the hidden truths will come to light, and someone will get hurt, but I assure you this time it won’t be me or my fault. You are going to wish you dealt with things in a much better way instead of telling lies that let you have your way that in the end when its all said and done will have been very short lived because your lies will simple make an already open wound fester to the point of amputation making it impossible for you to do some damage control in order to deal with it and come out on top.